A month from now, millions around the world will use the new year as motivation to lose the weight, get an education, make more money, find a lover — and whatever else.
Most of these resolutions are purely superficial desires. And make no doubt most people will fail.
“But Ben, I really do want to make more money in 2014 so that I can finally afford to do [whatever]”
I’m sure that you do. I do too.
But the reality is that you’re already destined to fail.
You’re setting goals for the wrong reasons
It all starts with the motivations behind setting goals or making resolutions. They usually exist only to fulfill a fantasy. The fantasy is driven by the melancholy of our everyday existence. And we expect a direct 1:1 payoff.